Congratulations! You’re pregnant. Your body is changing faster than you can say “birth control” and maybe you’re a little freaked out. Relax -- you’re not alone and all the changes you’re experiencing are completely normal. From swollen breasts to mood swings and morning sickness, the miracle of pregnancy and birth isn’t always glamorous. But one common, much more pleasant, (and sometimes unexpected) side effect of pregnancy is an increased sex drive. A lot of pregnant women report feeling extra horny during some or all of their trimesters.
Some women actually describe those 40 weeks as a non-stop sex-fest, with one woman saying, “I couldn’t get enough. I actually feel sorry for my poor husband.”
Isn’t it ironic -- sex got you into this situation and now sex is all you want! There’s actually a scientific explanation behind the phenomenon of pregnant horny women. But keep in mind that if you’re not horny during pregnancy it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Every woman’s body is unique and responds differently to pregnancy. Some women want sex 24/7 while others might feel a little sick and less than sexy. (Men, this is when it’s your job to spoil your lady and make her feel beautiful and desirable.)
Here we’ll explore everything you need to know about being a pregnant horny woman including how to deal with a guy who’s NOT turned on by a pregnant belly to the best sex positions for your comfort and pleasure.
It’s normal to be pregnant and horny. Here’s why…
Morning sickness. Fatigue. Mood swings. These are all common side effects and early signs that you’ve got a bun in the oven. But what about a sudden boost in your sex drive? A few physical changes can explain why you might be pregnant and horny.
Hormones
They’re responsible for unexplained tears, anger, and yes, friskiness! While some hormones might turn you into an emotional mess during pregnancy, others will leave you feeling sexually charged and ready to get down and dirty.
An increase in estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, and human placental lactogen (hPL) levels are all underlying causes of increased libido in pregnant women. Similar to horny teenagers during puberty, you’ll find your desires running wild along with your fantasies and your ability to control them.
Increased Blood Flow
Lots of things are happening down south during pregnancy and increased blood flow to your nether regions is just one reason you may be pregnant and horny. During pregnancy, your body increases its blood supply to your vagina, cervix, and uterus. You’ll experience more sensitivity in your clit and find yourself getting wetter, faster. You may even notice you’re wetter than normal thanks to increased lubrication. Your vagina is basically ready to go at the drop of a hat, which is a big change for many women who rely heavily on foreplay to get in the mood.
Why Pregnant Sex is Better
Some people are nervous about having sex while they’re pregnant, but not only is it completely safe and actually might be good for both you and the baby but it’s fun! A few things make sex while pregnant a new and exciting experience for both partners.
Your Body is Different (and Beautiful)
Are you and your partner into role-playing? Does your man fantasize about being with another woman? When you’re pregnant, your body is completely different. Your boobs are bigger and more sensitive, your skin is smoother, your hair may grow in thicker and healthier, and, oh yeah, you have a growing belly! In a lot of ways, your body is transformed and unfamiliar. That can be a huge turn-on for both you and your man.
Men who love having sex with pregnant women (and there’s A LOT out there), report being turned on by the idea of having sex with a different woman minus the guilt. If your man is excited about your pregnant body, it may also help you feel sexier and more connected with your changing figure. Some women already feel more feminine and in-tune with their bodies and sexual needs during pregnancy. Lucky you!
You and Your Partner Feel More Connected
What’s more intimate than creating another human life together? Not much! Which is why pregnant sex is some of the most intimate and hot. Pregnancy will bond you and your man in a new and different way. You’ll feel more emotionally connected in every way possible, including between the sheets. Sex is more meaningful. You may feel a deeper, more profound connection during lovemaking. Not to mention, you can have worry-free sex since you’re already pregnant! Ditch the condoms and enjoy skin-to-skin contact and no more pulling out.
I’m Pregnant and Horny -- What Do I Do?!
By now you probably figured out that being pregnant and horny isn’t a bad thing and is actually quite common. So, the first thing to do as a pregnant horny woman is to take a deep breath and embrace the beautiful changes your body is experiencing. Increased blood flow to your vagina, along with more lubrication and sensitivity makes for more intense orgasms both with your partner and alone.
Which brings us to our next point -- don’t fight it! Get excited about being more sexually excited. Sex during pregnancy has physical health benefits also including less stress and easier labor and recovery. That’s right ladies, having sex while pregnant can actually make for less painful labor. Having an orgasm has never been easier or more beneficial!
HELP I’m Pregnant and Horny but My Man Doesn’t Want to Have Sex
Unfortunately, just because you’re a horny pregnant woman who’s ready to get down 24/7 doesn’t mean your man will be. While many men find pregnant women irresistible (more on this in a minute), your guy might be completely freaked out by it.
First of all, don’t take it personally. It’s not YOU that freaks them out or your new, pregnant body -- it’s actually their fear of hurting you. Most men are worried about the following things when having sex with a pregnant partner:
- Squishing your belly when they’re on top of you
- Hurting the baby during intercourse (trust us guys, your penis will NOT reach the baby no matter how well endowed you are)
- Making you uncomfortable
There are a few ways to handle your man’s nervousness about pregnant sex. Reassuring him that he won’t hurt you or the baby might not be enough. Invite him along to an OBGYN appointment and have the doctor explain that it’s safe. Next, tell him how good sex is for you and the baby. He’s actually helping you by giving you sex. Say something like, “Do you want me to be less stressed (and yes, less bitchy)? Then fuck me!”.
Remind your man that once the baby is born, your sex life may take a backseat for a few weeks (or months, or years), so he better get it in while he can! If he’s still not convinced, it’s time to take matters into your own hands -- literally! Pregnant women, you should masturbate until your heart’s content! Do it in front of your man and chances are, he’ll want to join in. And if he doesn’t, you’re still getting off and it’s his loss. Men, now is the time to make your pregnant horny woman feel beautiful and loved. Put your hesitation aside and give her what she needs -- a good fucking!
Why Some Men Find Pregnant Women so HOT
On the other end of the spectrum are those men who find pregnant women sexy as hell. There’s no specific reason why your man sees your pregnant belly and instantly gets a hard-on. It’s complicated, complex, and differs from man to man. But some of the most common reasons are as follows.
We already know that men are visual creatures. They see boobs and ass (or even just bare skin) and they’re ready to go! Some men just find a pregnant belly and swollen breasts attractive. They want to explore your new body. It’s different and unfamiliar, which makes it a little naughty. If you’re horny and pregnant, let your man have his way with you as you both explore new and different sex.
Other men get turned on by the thought of you carrying their child. There’s something incredibly intimate about the thought of his seed inside your body. Your man’s desire might be connected to a deep, emotional connection which makes for some pretty hot sex and intense orgasms.
If you’re horny during pregnancy the chances are that you’re initiating sex more often. This in and of itself is a turn-on for your man. Men are three times more likely to initiate sex with their partners. Your guy will be pleasantly surprised and even more excited when you become the aggressor. Pregnant or not, guys find a woman who takes charge incredibly sexy. So, it’s no real mystery why men love a pregnant horny wife.
Best Sex Positions for Horny Pregnant Women
Are you pregnant and horny but still slightly uncomfortable with your growing belly? That’s the only caveat about being horny during pregnancy -- as things progress and your belly gets bigger, it can be difficult to navigate sex. Certain sex positions are not only more comfortable for you and your man but might result in more intense orgasms.
Spooning
Spooning isn’t just for after sex (although most women like being snuggled after sex). One of the easiest and most comfortable ways to navigate your growing belly is to lay on your side and have your partner enter you from behind. This position also prevents your man from entering you too deep, which could cause discomfort if your cervix is sensitive. Spooning also leaves both your hands and your partners’ free for clitoral stimulation -- bonus!
Cowgirl
This sex position already puts you in the driver seat (pregnant or not). When you’re on top, you can control the pressure, penetration, and clit stimulation. Most women shy away from the cowgirl position as your pregnancy enters the third trimester but rest assured, ladies, you aren’t going to crush your man (or the baby)! Hold yourself up in a position that’s comfortable for you. Your man will love laying back and letting you take charge. Switch things up and try reverse cowgirl -- another position that puts you in control of the depth, angle, and rhythm with minimal strain on your body or tummy.
Doggy Style
Another popular sex position for both partners, doggy style is comfortable for many pregnant women and allows the guy to enter from behind without any obstacles (your belly). You can both be on the bed with you on all fours or you can position yourself to the edge of the bed with your guy standing on the floor. Push back on him to control penetration or let him take the reigns. Either way, you’ll experience minimal pressure on your bladder and cervix for more comfortable and enjoyable sex.
Standing Up Against the Wall
This is one sex position that people don’t often think of but it’s perfect for pregnancy. It’s time to get creative about how to have comfortable unobstructed sex. Stand facing the wall with your hands against it and your legs spread so your partner can stand behind you and enter you. The wall offers you extra support and your belly is out of the way.
Pregnancy can seem like a long, daunting 40 weeks for both you and your man. Your body is undergoing countless changes and not all of them are welcome. But the one thing most women (and men) can look forward to during pregnancy is a spike in your sex drive. A combination of factors makes pregnant women horny. If you’re lucky, you’ll experience not only more intense orgasms and more frequent sex but a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.
April Sutphen
